What do you do when you’ve lost motivation

When you’ve been working toward a goal and it feels like things are not going the way that you want them to, what do you do?

Maybe you hoped that the event you ran had more registrations or that you made more sales or you made a ton of calls to people who expressed an interest and no one said yes yet, how do you keep going without giving up?

First, it’s worth knowing why you are doing what you are doing.

Is it because you want to buy that house or car or holiday or whatever? Or is it to help more people to have happier lives or relationships or whatever your purpose and mission is. Either is fine if they motivate you, and you may find that there is more juice in the latter than the former.

Secondly, consider if it is just that you are physically, mentally or emotionally tired and decide to allow yourself to have a break. That could mean a 30 or 60 minute nap or time to journal or walk, or an actual holiday where you take a few days off and don’t do anything related to your business and allow yourself to recharge.

It’s hard to stay motivated when we feel depleted physically, mentally or emotionally so making sure we take time for ourselves is vital.

Finally, if you’ve taken a break and know that you are doing what you truly desire and want to be doing, consider if there is something that you can do differently that will allow you to do what you need to do while have fun doing it.

For example, one way runners make it more enjoyable to run is to listen to energizing music.

Another way to make getting things fun done is to set up rewards for when you hit your targets. For example, if you want to make sure you make sales calls, then give yourself a treat when you make 3 calls a day for 5 days. Or set up a chart that uses gold stars for each day you complete your calls and then when you have 20 stars you can schedule a reward like a massage or a colouring in date.

If none of that helps or you’ve tried them and it hasn’t helped, then consider if what you are working toward is truly what you want.

Are you really working toward something you are called to do or are you doing it because you should?

When you truly desire something then it is easier to keep going and motivate yourself to get there. If not then there is no shame in adjusting things so that they are in alignment with what you truly desire as that will put your desire and energy to work for you.

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What motivates you?

In the course of heading toward a goal or manifesting your dreams there comes a point where you question, WTF am I doing this for? Why does this even matter?

How you answer those questions, assuming you do in fact choose to answer them, is the difference between moving forward or not.

For some people moving toward their successful business is about making money.

Honestly there is nothing wrong with making money, and usually the money itself is not the reason why they are in business. Maybe it’s to make a difference and contribute to the world in some way. Maybe it’s to be free to choose and have more fun.

Usually though the why for doing something falls into one of two categories, moving away from pain or toward pleasure.

So maybe it’s making money to get out of debt and not have to worry about bills, or maybe it’s making money to go on that all inclusive holiday you’ve had your eye on.

Often we can start out moving away from pain, and that can very quickly lead to burn out unless we switch to moving toward pleasure or more accurately what we desire.

In my business I started out with the need to make money to get out of debt and pay my bills, and over the years have discovered that moving toward what I desire works much more effectively to motivate me than avoiding pain.

Actually having to avoid pain causes stress whereas actively viewing my actions as either moving me toward or away from the vision I have of my life allows me to freely choose the actions I’d like to take on a day to day basis, rather than feeling obligated and coerced.

Over to you, what motivates you and how can you use that to move you toward your goals? I’d love to hear in the comments below.

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Analysis paralysis

As an introvert entrepreneur it can be so easy to fall into the hole of overanalyzing what needs to be done rather than just getting into action.

We can be adept at putting up blocks to getting in action.

Typically it is that we need to be ready, or to have x in place in order to be ready, or we think that things need to be perfect in order to get things done.

We over think what to put on our website or blog or podcast and it doesn’t get done.

Maybe it’s that we spend a lot of time researching the options and figuring out what would be the best choice when just picking an option would give us the feedback we need to adjust and set us on the right track. Or finding someone to support us would give us the guidance we need to decide for ourselves.

Really what we want to do is to get in to action and get things done.

Otherwise we can waste time and resources wondering why nothing is getting done and taking so long!

A mistake that introvert entrepreneurs make is not limiting the time to make a decision and gather information.

We allow ourselves an undefined time to look at the options and see whats out there without setting a deadline to make the decision by. This means we can just keep researching our options without coming to any real conclusion.

The best way to avoid that is to set a time limit to your information gathering and have a time to make a decision by.

If we don’t set a deadline then we can get distracted and thrown off, and our momentum stalls leaving us feeling frustrated and like things are never going to get done.

Another mistake is that we shy away from asking the questions we have. Usually this is because we think we have to find out by ourselves.

We can waste so much time poring through information or waiting for the right time to ask instead of just asking someone who would know and saving ourselves the time and hassle.

It can be challenging to ask for help, and there are people who are more than willing to support you by giving you advice on your options. If you reach out to them for support.

If you are finding yourself paralysed by inaction and overthinking or overanalysing, share with us in the comments what your deadline will be for researching the options and who you might ask for support.

If you’d like to get some support from me then please, give me a shout!

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It’s all about being open

One of the major challenges with being an entrepreneur is that over the course of our lives, because life is so busy and noisy and down right overwhelming at times, we can through no fault of our own develop walls.

These walls are perhaps unconscious, but they were usually put in place to help protect us from harm.

Maybe it’s the harm of rejection or ridicule or disappointment or maybe it is something else.

Whatever the wall is meant to protect us from, it also prevents us from receiving the opposite.

If we are protecting ourselves from rejection, we can miss the acceptance that we are really looking for.

If we’re on guard for being disappointed and let down we can miss the fact that we receive what we desired, or more likely do something to push what we desire away.

Walls are useful to build a strong, solid building, but unless there are doors and windows that allow people and vehicles to come and go the building is useless at least for living a full and happy life.

In business, we want to be able to let people see who we are fully, and trust that because of that the right people will choose to work with us.

The trick is being comfortable with all sides of who you are, the light and the dark. The perfectionist and the slob, the shy and the chatty, the kind and the rude.

The more that we can love and accept ourselves, the more that we can allow ourselves to be who we are, the more we attract the right people into our world.

To the extent that we can let go of the walls, barriers and resistance life (i.e. clients, money, opportunities) flows to us with increased ease.

One way we do that is by seeing the gift of each side of us.

What does the perfectionist/ slob/ shy/ chatty/ kind/ rude/ whatever side you’re working with allow you to achieve?

Maybe it means that you produce great work, but you work too hard and your slob helps you to recharge.

Maybe your shy side allows you time to think and discern the right people to approach and the chatty side allows you to connect.

Perhaps your kind side allows you to give generously and your rude side means that you don’t let the giving deplete you?

I’d love to hear what side you have learned to see the gift of in the comments.

When you can see that each is supporting us in some way then you can open up more and more. If you’d like support to open up to life and your ideal clients then get in touch.

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Give without counting the cost

When it comes to building relationships being generous is key and it can be tricky to do when you feel like you have little to offer the people you meet.

That could be because we feel tired or deflated or overwhelmed. Or because we have a strict budget and can’t afford to buy drinks or gifts.

When we feel we have little to offer the people we meet it can be hard to see what we can do for people and feel generous, so here are some tips to give without counting the cost.

Make sure you feel good

When you feel good, i.e. you have enough energy, and feel happy then you’ll naturally be giving out positive energy.

On the other hand when you don’t feel good, when you’re tired or grumpy or unhappy it’s that much harder to give out positivity.

I’m sure we’ve all experienced bad days where perhaps we haven’t had enough sleep and we’re moody and grumpy. Maybe we’ve unexpectedly snapped at someone and spread that mood around.

It’s so common, and if we take the time to turn our mood around and feel good, then we tend to do the opposite and spread more happiness around.

So it’s important to take the time to make sure that you feel good.

Whether that means you go for a walk, jog, soak in the bath, dance, sing or nap is totally up to you and what you have time for.

What makes you feel good and shifts your mood? Make a list and then make sure to do that before going to events or making phone calls or whenever you need an energy boost. It will make sure that you always at the very least have your positive energy to give to the people you meet!

Focus on what you do have

It’s easy to feel like you have nothing to offer when you focus on what you don’t have, or perhaps more accurately when you’re working toward the goals you haven’t achieved yet.

That’s why it’s important to not just feel good, but to shift your focus to what you do have.

That isn’t to say that you ignore the fact that you are working toward your goals, but that instead of seeing the gap between where you are now and where you want to be, you look at how far you have come.

The best way to do that is through gratitude. What do you have right now that you are thankful for? What obstacles and challenges have you navigated through? What lessons have you learned? What skills and gifts do you have that you have gained? 

All of these are things to be grateful for and could also be things you can share with the people you meet.

These days I am thankful I am able to have great enjoyable conversations with people at networking events. I remember the days when I couldn’t and really struggled even to go to them. I learned a lot about myself, people and what works to make great connections. Through the process I discovered my introvert super power of deep listening which allows the people I meet to feel heard and understood.

I’d love to hear what you’re grateful for and what makes you feel good in the comments below.

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Carrot or stick?

When you struggle to be productive and can’t get much done, do you beat yourself up or do you allow yourself to have some fun?

You might think that beating yourself up for not getting things done means you actually do get things done, but you might find that in reality that is not the case.

For me, the pain of beating myself up leads to distraction.  Sometimes that can be productive like getting something else that needs to be done off my to do list. For example,  doing some cleaning, exercise or writing/ journalling, or not – comfort eating, binging on social media or checking my email.

Perhaps you can relate?

Pleasure, on the other hand, can seem like a distraction, but when satiated and followed can allow us to be even more productive.

Often we think that beating ourselves up motivates us to get things done when in reality it does the opposite.

It saps us of our strength, puts us in the victim role and keeps us stuck.

If however, we allow ourselves to feel good and reach for what is pleasurable we can find that we have more energy and joy.

While more joy may not in itself mean that we get more done, we might find that the extra energy gives us the extra juice to get done what needs doing, and helps us to be more pleasant to deal with when we do.

Besides, who doesn’t want to be joyful and happy?!

I’d love to hear what you think about what motivates you in the comments below.

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Finding the balance between business and self-care

Working for yourself as a solo entrepreneur or a freelancer it can be tricky to balance the desire to do well and succeed (whatever that looks like to you) and taking care of yourself.

There are so many demands competing for your time, your clients, the marketing – whether that is through social media or speaking or radio or TV or whatever channel you are working to connect with your clients on. Plus life, your family, your friends and even your own health.

It’s challenging to make time for everything and more often than not, if you are in the service professions the person who comes at the bottom of the to do list is ourselves.

If you are an entrepreneur and wonder why you feel so tired, depleted and resentful at the end of the day then it is likely to be because you’ve put yourself at the bottom of your list for way too long.

The reason you are tired, depleted and resentful and likely struggling, at least a little, with your health is because you’ve forgotten to take care of yourself.

It’s hard for anyone to be successful when they feel that way.

If you are a solo entrepreneur or freelancer then you are your business. So it is important to take care of the core asset, you!

The best way to make sure that you do that is to give yourself time to rest and recharge.

This is easier to do if you schedule it in, preferably in advance and in conjunction with the other parts of your life. If for example you’re a woman with monthly cycles and you know that you get tired around the start of your period then it’s scheduling a lighter load for that time of the month. It’s also doing what you can to schedule in activities that light you up and recharge you after especially taxing days, weeks or activities.

Scheduling in your time for you first is a great way to make sure that it gets honoured and is non-negotiable, and that the other tasks are scheduled around that.

If you want to know more about prioritising then take a look at this post.

I’m curious what are you going to schedule in today, this week and this month to make sure that you are at the top of your to do list? What are you going to schedule in to rest and recharge yourself? Share with me in the comments below.

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Become successful – Master your emotions

There’s a lot of talk about mastering your mind and your emotions when it comes to success and being successful.

The problem with that is that it can seem like “successful people” don’t feel or have emotions when that is not the case.

What they do is they manage their emotions and don’t allow them to take over.

Have you ever had a day where you just couldn’t put your finger on it, but you were kind of mad? Or sad or whatever other emotion you want to name.

What successful people are able to do is not ignore their emotions, which really doesn’t work, but to find a way to cope with the emotion.

Perhaps that’s by going for a run or a work out of some kind, perhaps it’s by journalling or talking to a friend or perhaps it’s by tackling whatever the issue is head on, taking whatever step needs to, and can be taken right now.

What most people do is try to ignore it when they feel down or bad or angry which just makes things worse like a volcano waiting to erupt.

Something that I’ve found that helps me to deal with my emotions is EFT, Emotional Freedom Technique or tapping.

This is a really simple straightforward and pain-free process that when done right helps you to feel much clearer and grounded.

There are a ton of books and video’s that you can find on the web.

A video that I found useful was this one from my friend Kate Winch.

Check it out here:

Have you ever used EFT? I’d love to know what you thought about it in the comments below.

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The Power of Fear

A friend and I were talking about fear as we were on our way home recently. My friend shared that they thought it best to have some fear rather than none at all, and after some thought I realised that I disagreed.

The problem with fear is that it can grip us in place and keep us stuck. Especially if we aren’t aware of it and don’t do anything to shift it.

The problem with not having any fear is that you can rush headlong into situations and fail to take precautions to protect yourself.

Both are not the ideal.

Fear isn’t a bad thing. It does it’s job when it alerts us to a potential danger that we need to be aware and mindful of. Fear is designed to keep us safe.

The thing is though that life is not meant to be lived safely.

The joy, excitement, happiness, fulfillment doesn’t come from just doing the same things day after day. It often comes from facing our fear and discovering that it is just an illusion. That there is something even more wonderful than we ever imagined on the other side.

Fear is the power that if we learn to embrace it, helps us to move closer to where we want to go.

How do we embrace it?

First, we get conscious of it. We become aware that we are afraid of something, whether that is heights or crowds, networking or public speaking.

Then once we are aware of our fear we ask how it is serving us. What does this fear protect me from?

Then knowing that we can make a conscious choice to continue to be afraid or to take action in removing that fear.

I don’t think anyone is ever truly fearless, it is healthy to have some fear, and most of our fears are not serving us and just keep us stuck. It’s up to us to look our fear in the face and work out if it is helping or hindering us and take action.

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Networking is like dating?!

After finding myself single last year I was surprised by how nervous I felt about dipping my toes back into dating. Granted, it had been 15 years since I was single!

I remember feeling that I didn’t know what to do at an event one Saturday night until I recalled that I teach people how to network and knew exactly what I needed to do to build relationships with the people that I was meeting.

You can discover the three ways that networking is like dating here:

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