Relationships require nurturing

If you’ve ever made a friend or had a romantic relationship, then you know that the relationship requires nurturing.

The same thing applies to the business contacts and connections that you make, but unlike the contact with partners and friends, it usually takes a bit more of an effort to stay connected to more professional contacts.

It is, however the same idea.

When you are building a relationship with a friend or potential romantic partner you share about yourself and find out about them, you have shared language and experiences that help to deepen your connection and relationship, and over time the more that you share and connect the more that you develop that relationship.

Sometimes that’s through making phone calls or sending texts, perhaps it’s through emails or meetings (dates if you’re looking for a partner!) Or all of these!

The key part is to communicate and engage with the people you want to stay in touch with.

Of course, over time not all relationships will develop into something productive. Whether that’s a friendship, a partnership or a customer, but you cannot skimp on the time and effort it takes to grow the relationship and connection.

Kind of like the time it takes for plants to grow! Sometimes weeds can grow with the flowers, unless you weed them out as they grow (and it’s a good idea to do that)!

How you do that is through prioritising finding out what the people you want to stay in touch with need and finding ways to give that to them, whether that’s staying in touch via your mutual love of bad jokes or sharing an experience in your life or article they might find useful.

Relationships may fall out and fail to grow, but that’s OK.

It takes time for good things to develop, so don’t stop cultivating and nurturing the seeds. You never know which ones will flower!

If you’d like support to do nurture your business relationships then get in touch.

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The funny thing about time

As an entrepreneur and someone who is working to continually create more of myself and my life and to build it in such a way that it is filled more and more with what I love, something I’ve struggled with is having enough time.

Time to eat, sleep and take care of myself. Time to take care of my important relationships and to do all the tasks that it requires to create and grow a successful business.

Something I’ve noticed is that when my time is filled with things that I love to do, then time can seem short and also very rewarding.

When my time is filled with things I dread and not enough of the things I love, then it seems endless and boring.

There is truth to the saying time flies when you’re having fun!

The funny thing about time is that it expands or contracts depending on how much time we spend doing what we love.

Considering that time is the only personal resource that we can’t generate more of it seems important to spend more of our time having fun, doing what we love.

So if we’re feeling like there is not enough time in the day and that we are over-run with tasks and things to do, can we change the way we look at them to see them as fun or doing something we love?

For example, the FB live may not yet be fun, but it supports me to do what I love helping introverted entrepreneurs grow their businesses.

The chores and household tasks help me to show my loved ones that I care.

If you’re finding that your time is filled with things you hate doing, and you find it difficult to see them as ways to do something we love, then I’d recommend looking for ways to delegate those tasks to someone else who loves to do it. Perhaps hiring a cleaner or enlisting a youngster to help you out.

Life is too short to not enjoy as much of it as you can!

If you’d like support to do that then get in touch.

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Clear away the distractions

It’s easy to get swept up in life these days. Social media, demands of family and friends and relationships, and clients, perhaps employees if you have them and even our own physical, mental, emotional and spiritual needs.

It’s easy to get pulled along in the whirlwind of life from the moment we wake up to the moment our head hits the pillow when we go to sleep.

It’s hard sometimes to stay focussed on what needs to be done, especially when it all feels so important, and it’s in these moments of busy-ness that it’s even more vital and important to take a few moments to clear away the distractions.

Not just the external ones, but the internal ones as well.

One way to do that is to journal about what is bothering you and all the things you need to keep track of.

The other is to take just a small moment, or a much longer one if you need it, to take some slow, deep breaths. Three or more breaths where you inhale and exhale for a count of 5.

I find both are helpful when my mind is buzzing and busy with all the external distractions and also when the internal distractions seem to be turned up high. Sometimes it is more helpful to release the buzzing through journalling, then taking a moment to deeply breathe and sometimes it’s more helpful to just breathe or journal.

Usually though once I’ve taken the time to clear away the distractions, I’m more able to be present and to tackle the tasks that are in front of me.

It’s easy to forget, especially when we are busy trying to meet a deadline or just get things done in the time we have.

And the more that I do it, the more I realise it’s important to do and the more it becomes a habit!

Doing these exercises in the morning can set you up for a much more productive day, and doing them at night usually means more restful sleep. What’s not to love?!

Let me know how it goes in the comments below!

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You don’t have to put up with it!

I recently went for my first visit with a chiropractor. It was a great experience. The consultation itself was enlightening. I found out much more about my body, and re-learned that we really are the best people to know what is wrong with us.

I also left feeling like my neck and back had a new lease of life.

Whether you have a pain in your neck (or back) you don’t have to put up with it. You can get the support you need to make it better.

This also applies to business, in case you were wondering! 😉

If you have a pain in your neck or a task or two that you hate doing, why not find someone who can help take it off your hands? Like the chiropractor who was able to get rid of my neck and back pain, maybe there is someone who can help you do that social media marketing you hate or to craft that elevator pitch or create that book cover you are looking for.

You don’t have to put up with the pain!

You may be on a budget and have little to spare on extra help. Consider if you can really afford to not pay for help. You can also consider exchanging services or doing something else in return for what you need, rather than paying money if you’re really stuck.

There are people who can and are willing to help if you’re ready to let go of what’s troubling you and get support.

If you’d like to get support to master your elevator pitch and networking then get in touch.

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Schedules and making the most of your time

When you work for yourself it is easy to fall into having totally unstructured time where you get sidetracked by the many demands that modern life brings our way… The broken household items or the deliveries that need to be made or the kids getting sick or what have you, and if you don’t learn to manage your time effectively, in a way that works for you then you’ll likely end up feeling like it’s a waste of time and better to go back to having a job.

To support you to make the most use of your time and make sure that your business becomes something that really works for you and brings you joy it’s vital to have a schedule for your days and weeks that truly works for you.

Take a look at this quick Facebook live I did on the benefits of schedules here:

When it comes to your schedule t’s important to know what time of day works best for you and then also your clients.

I would recommend that you take note of when you work best, when are you most productive hours and use those times for your more challenging or attention intense tasks and then schedule the rest around it.

Also take into account your ideal work week and plan that in. For example, if you’d like to have a four day week, then make sure that you ear mark your Friday or Monday as a day of rest and make sure to not schedule anything in that time.

It takes a bit of discipline and if you truly want to create a life and business that works for you, it starts with being able to manage your time.

I’d love to hear in the comments how you are going to make the best use of your time.

If you’d like more support to come up with a scheudle that works for you, then get in touch.

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Sustainable momentum

Something I talked with my clients about toward the end of the year was momentum.

It’s so easy to put in a ton of energy to launch something and get it going that we burn ourselves out and can’t keep the momentum going and flowing.

Or maybe it’s more that we get things going and then life happens and it throws us off. Trust me I know all about that! (Last year I had some pretty serious stuff throw me off that meant I spent months regaining my momentum!)

So we get thrown off and then things grind to a halt and we have to give things an extra push again to get things going potentially making it so that we stop again after.

It’s a problem because we create this stop and start cycle in our business, where we get some clients and money to come in and then things stop and then we have to put out a lot more time, money and energy to get things going again.

What if there was a way to generate income and momentum that was sustainable and also scalable?

I’m not going to say that this is the same for all business owners or entrepreneurs. I don’t think there is a one size fits all for building and sustaining a business that will suit everyone.

But, I do believe that if you want to build a sustainable and successful business that it is up to you to discover the marketing methods that you can use, on a consistent basis to generate momentum and income.

There will likely be a mix of different marketing methods that you use, whether that’s networking, speaking, blogging, vlogging, podcasting, social media etc, it all depends on you and what you enjoy doing (as well as where your people are likely to be).

And it is much better to start with one method and get good at that before adding in another.

It’s about finding the tools that you can commit to using and getting better at over time. You don’t have to be perfect with the tools to start using them, just willing to use them and improve. This will then make sure that you create and generate a sustainable flow of clients.

You may find that the start of your business is much slower than you would like and I think of this as the period where you are laying the foundations for your business to succeed. The time it takes to put the processes in place that will allow you to provide the best service you can to your clients while also honouring yourself.

It’s important to know how much time you have to spend working with clients in amongst your commitments and taking care of yourself. This will involve setting and maintaining healthy boundaries for your time, money and energy and the more that you have these skills in place before you get into the business the easier the journey will be.

Knowing how to handle, take care of and manage your time, money and energy is vital to succeeding in business, especially if you want to generate sustainable income and momentum because it will allow you to be in charge of and create your life.

If you’d like support to do that then get in touch.

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Welcome to 2018!

I hope you had a wonderful holiday season!

The new year is just a few days old. Are you excited about what the year can bring?

Personally, I love new years, like new journals, blank pages or canvases that are waiting for us to make our mark!

How will you use the roughly 521280 minutes that are left waiting to be used?

Will you use them to make life better for yourself, your loved ones, your clients and the world at large?

Will you use them to bring as much joy, happiness and love as you can to your world?

My intention for 2018 is to continue to grow my business and myself to become more of who I truly am, to bring as much joy, happiness and love as I can to my world and those in it.

What is your intention for this year? I’d love to hear in the comments below!

For many of us we are glad to see the back of 2017 and to move forward into a new and different year ahead.

Whatever has happened in 2017, may 2018 be filled with more joy, happiness and love for you and your loved ones!

If you’d like support to get your 2018 off to a flying start, get in touch!

Taking stock

As the year draws to a close are you taking stock of how far you have come and celebrating?

No matter how well you’ve done with your goals this year, it’s useful to take some time and review what you have achieved and what you’ve learned so that you can move forward into the next year with more fuel and focus.

You can watch a Facebook like I recorded before my birthday here:

Share with me in the comments your achievements and how you are going to celebrate them. I’d love to hear.

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In the meantime have a wonderful holiday season and see you in the new year!

Don’t be ashamed to want

We all want things.

In fact it’s human to want.

To want food in our belly, a roof over our head and people to love us unconditionally.

Maybe it’s more first world problems of wanting the most up to date piece of tech or designer clothes or the most luxurious holiday.

What ever it is you want, wanting these things in themselves is not bad.

What is bad is wanting and then doing anything to get what you want, including stepping over or on people in the rush to get to your goal. Maybe it’s exploiting or manipulating people and using them for your own ends.

A lot of introverts and heart centered business owners can feel like business is skirting a fine line because they want to help people and get paid well for it at the same time.

And so to deal with the shame for wanting to be paid for their work they make themselves smaller by discounting their service or giving it away for free.

The truth is that we all deserve to make a living and the key to not feeling ashamed to ask to be paid well for your work is to know that it provides value to the right people.

One way to stay aware of the value your work provides is to ask for testimonials and keep them in a safe place where you can look back at them and use them to remind yourself of the value you’ve given.

Another is to keep your focus on how you can serve rather than what you receive out of the exchange. Of course this doesn’t mean you don’t ask for what you need and it’s being compassionate toward your client (or potential client) without forgetting about yourself and what you need.

As I once read, It’s hard to be the light when you’re struggling to pay your light bill!

The world needs us to not only serve, help and support each other, but also to take care of our own needs first. It’s only when those are truly met and covered that we can really grow and be the change the world really needs.

I’d love to hear how you feel about asking for money and being paid in your business in the comments below.

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Dealing with rejection

When it comes to building a business there are countless opportunities to be confronted with rejection.

Making sales, meeting people, making connections, marketing yourself and your products, coming up with new ideas, looking for investment or resources of any sort.

The question is what do you do when you are confronted with it? Do you let it keep you down or do you find a way to learn and bounce back from the experience?

Granted it is not easy. It takes time and practice to learn that a no isn’t necessarily about you. (It might be at least in part, but it doesn’t always have to do with you!) It also takes time to be able to discern what if anything you could have done differently and to change those habits so they no longer work against you.

But the alternative is that you let the fear of rejection keep you where you are.

If you’re happy where you are then great!

If not though, then this TED talk might help:

I’d love to hear your biggest takeaways in the comments below.

If you’d like support to deal with rejection from networking and sales conversations then get in touch.

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